Why does St. Paul talk about the scandal of the cross?
There is something shocking, surprising, and almost scandalous about suffering. Pain is always uncomfortable. We have this innate sense that we were not meant to suffer.
And yet, suffering cannot be avoided, for it is part of life.
How we view suffering and the meaning we discern in it radically influences how we respond to pain in our lives, and how we respond can make all the difference.
We’re a culture that can be very clinical when dealing with pain, suffering, and uncomfortable feelings. Pain is often seen as something to eliminate or medicate as soon as it surfaces. Yet pain is not only part of life, but a messenger of truth.
In his book The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis writes, “We can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”
This may be a surprising way to look at pain. We usually think that God mostly or only speaks through peace. Pain and discomfort tell us that something is off balance, something isn’t quite right, and it usually doesn’t stop shouting to us until we attend to it.
The way we deal with pain can also be a megaphone to humanity, witnessing to what we believe and hold on to. We are moved by people who despite suffering are calm and joyful. Most people whom we consider heroes, whether real or fictional, have experienced some sort of struggle and suffering in life. What makes them great is how they faced that suffering and what they did with it. We ask ourselves, what do they have? What gives them that kind of joy, peace, or courage? Suffering brings out something real in people. You can only fake for so long.
What we do with our pain matters. Discomfort and suffering might be the beginning of a calling, a special mission specific to you in this time of history.
Henri Nouwen, a contemporary priest and master of spirituality, wrote in his book Turn my Mourning into Dancing, “when we learn to move through suffering, rather than avoid it, then we greet it differently. We become willing to let it teach us. We even begin to see how God can use it for some larger end.”
In this time of pandemic we’ve all experienced losses, changes, or injustices that have caused pain. Often our first reaction to pain is shock and resistance, but when we finally lean into the pain and listen to the message it may be carrying, we realize that in the discomfort often lie hidden truths about who we are, who we are not, what really matters, and what God is calling us to.
All of you who may be experiencing loss, pain, or the suffering of those around you, I invite you to join me in asking: what is this pain calling us away from or toward?
Let us lean in and listen to the Spirit speaking. And as we listen to the Spirit, may we learn as Henri Nouwen says, “to place our hurts in larger hands.”
In Turn my Mourning into Dancing, Nouwen writes: “In Christ we see God suffering – for us. And calling us to share in God’s suffering love for a hurting world. The small and even overpowering pains of our lives are intimately connected with the greater pains of Christ. Our daily sorrows are anchored in a greater sorrow and therefore a larger hope.”
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Anna Loch is a parishioner at St. Joseph’s in Vancouver and outreach manager at Gardens of Gethsemani. She holds a master’s in theology and counselling psychology.