The B.C. Catholic begins a multi-part series exploring Canada’s little-known history of forcing single mothers to give up their babies to adoption. In this introduction, James Borkowski describes how the issue came to our attention with the visit of Bernadette Dumas-Rymer. See links to additional stories at the end.
Through adoption, many families have provided a beautiful safe haven for children in need and have also allowed women challenged by circumstances to choose life rather than abortion. I have always thought that it must be an agonizing decision but assumed it was one that would be followed by the peace that comes with knowing your child has been given a better chance at a secure and fulfilling life.
One very determined and passionate woman has taken on the issue of helping people understand what can go wrong when adoption systems, started with good intentions, end up hurting women, their babies and their families. Too many times in Canada and elsewhere, young women were pressured by their families, social workers and their churches to give their babies up for adoption. In the process, their rights were trampled and the hearts of these mothers were broken.
Bernadette Dumas-Rymer brought her personal and tragic story to the Archdiocese of Vancouver a few years ago. After extensive research and collaboration with her, adoptees and others who have been deeply impacted, the local Church wants to share more about this issue, with the hope that it will lead to increased awareness of the trauma caused to both the mother and child involved in forced and coerced adoptions.
Before meeting Bernadette, I generally thought of adoption as a fortunate second chance for a woman and child facing a difficult situation. It’s much more complex and nuanced. As painful as it can be for Catholics to reflect on challenging issues from the past, it’s critical that we listen to those who have been impacted and trust that God’s grace will continue the community on a path to justice and healing.
As Sister Miriam Heidland shares often, “Pain that is not transformed will be transferred.” The healing ministry of Jesus and his Church can be unblocked if we listen to and provide better care for those who have been deeply hurt by the actions and policies of her leaders and members.
Bernadette and the people she represents seek to be heard and understood. We hope this series will help give her the platform she deserves.
James Borkowski is the Archbishop’s Delegate for Operations.