Wherever I go—whether at the pool, in a store, or on the bus—I see happy parents and people smiling at babies in strollers. I know several very joyful families with five or more children.
Yes, countries such as China and Japan are increasingly concerned about declining birth rates and the challenges of supporting rapidly aging populations. But closer to home, if a Walmart employee seemed less than enthusiastic about your three children, it may simply be that she wishes she could be home with a child of her own. Working in retail is certainly less appealing than spending time with one’s children, and many women work long hours just to make ends meet. We should be grateful for our families; countless women long deeply for even one child and never receive that gift. That sorrow runs far deeper than not being congratulated by a stranger.
Especially within the Catholic Church, children are cherished. We appreciate them—and the parents who bring them to church. Personally, I would focus on rejoicing in my children rather than trying to change how others react. Misunderstandings happen. Sometimes the best response is simply to smile and say, “My children are my greatest joy and gift in life.”
Marianne Werner
Vancouver
Thank you to Father James Hughes, the Mom & Tots group, the Bereavement Ministry, and the CWL at Our Lady of the Assumption Parish for hosting their second annual Mass for Infant Loss.
In his homily, Father Hughes spoke about the importance of a strong faith community to support bereaved families and the healing that can take place when families who have experienced infant loss journey through grief together.
For the past eight years, a Mass for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day has also been celebrated at Gardens of Gethsemani Catholic Cemetery in October in partnership with Elizabeth Ministry. It was wonderful to have Archbishop Richard Smith attend last year’s, along with more than 150 people.
I am grateful to all the Elizabeth Ministers and supporters who have offered their time, talent, and treasure to care for and serve families seeking hope and healing after the loss of their babies and young children.
Donna L. Crombie
Elizabeth Ministry BC Coordinator
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